4 August 2025
As parents find new partners after separation, step or blended families are created. Summer holidays can be a time of joy and relaxation, but for blended families, they can also come with added layers of complexity. Whether it’s managing different parenting styles, co-parenting arrangements, or expectations from extended family members, planning a summer that works for everyone can be tricky to manage.
As a family lawyer, I often see how important good communication and clear planning are in helping blended families enjoy the summer break. Here are a few things to consider.
1. Plan ahead
Trying to organise time away at the last minute rarely works well when there are multiple households involved. Ideally, holiday arrangements should be discussed and agreed months in advance, giving each parent time to arrange their holidays with the children and reducing stress.
2. Communicate with the other parent(s)
If you’re co-parenting with an ex-partner, keeping them informed about plans, travel details and general updates can help build trust and avoid misunderstandings. Ensure your agreement is set out in an email, especially if arrangements have been tricky in the past.
3. Inform the children once you have agreed the plans with your co-parent
Children look forward to holidays just as much as us. They often feel more secure when they know what to expect, how long they will be away, where they are going and when they will be coming back to spend time with the other parent. But, don’t share the plans until all the details are agreed.
4. Look after your mental wellbeing
It’s easy for emotions to surface during holiday planning, especially with the added dynamic of extended families. Parents often feel pressure for everyone to have the best time on holiday but it’s rarely possible to please everyone all the time. Recognise what you need in the holidays as well as the children’s needs. If you need to reduce stress, carve out some time to go for a walk in nature, a bike ride or yoga session.
5. Don’t be afraid to seek support
If holiday arrangements become a source of conflict, legal advice can help clarify rights and responsibilities. Our lawyers can help you to navigate through disagreements and reach a resolution.
6. Mediation
If holiday plans become a source of conflict, legal advice or mediation can help.
At Blaser Mills, Sadie Glover and Lucinda Holliday are experienced family mediators who support separating families in resolving both financial and children matters without the stress of going to court.
Lucinda is Law Society accredited and offers child-inclusive mediation. Sadie brings over 20 years’ experience in family law, with a focus on practical, long-term solutions.
For further information or advice please get in touch with Kate Jones, a Senior Associate, experienced in complex children law matters, on 01494 478684 or email kate.jones@blasermills.co.uk.