3 November 2025
For many families, Christmas is a time of excitement and tradition. But for separated parents, it can also be emotional and sometimes difficult, especially when deciding where the children will spend the holidays. The best way to avoid conflict is to plan early, keep communication calm, and focus on what really matters which is making Christmas happy for the children.
Start the conversation early
The best way to prevent a last-minute argument is to talk about arrangements well before December. This gives everyone time to think things through and avoids rushed decisions when emotions are high. Many families choose to alternate Christmas each year or divide the time, such as one parent having Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, and the other having Boxing Day. Every family is different. What matters most is finding an arrangement that feels right for the children and manageable for both parents.
Keep the focus on the children
Children notice when things feel tense, even during happy times. They do best when parents work together and make plans that let them enjoy Christmas with both families. It helps to think about where they will feel relaxed, secure and able to have fun. Even small compromises, like sharing a few hours on Christmas morning or arranging a video call, can make a big difference.
Use mediation if needed
If discussions become difficult, mediation can help. At Blaser Mills we have two trained mediators who can provide a neutral space to talk things through and reach an agreement that works for everyone. Mediation is often faster, less stressful and far cheaper than going to court. Solicitors can also help parents negotiate calmly and record what’s been agreed in writing, giving clarity for the future.
Avoid leaving it too late
If you do need a court order to settle arrangements, it’s important to act early. The family courts see a surge in applications leading up to Christmas, and deadlines for festive hearings are usually set in the autumn. Leaving things until December often means there’s no time for a decision before the holidays. Taking early advice can help you understand your options and reduce uncertainty.
Keep communication kind
When emotions are high, it’s easy to let frustration spill into messages or handovers. Keeping communication polite and focused on practical details helps avoid unnecessary tension. Using apps or written calendars can also make planning simpler and reduce misunderstandings.
Christmas doesn’t have to be a battleground. With early planning, open communication and a willingness to compromise, most parents can find arrangements that work.
At Blaser Mills, our Family Law team supports parents in finding calm, practical solutions to child arrangements. To speak to our team, get in touch with Sadie Glover on 01628 962239 or email sadie.glover@blasermills.co.uk.