6 February 2025
Divorce can be one of life’s most challenging experiences, but approaching it with the right mindset and knowledge can make a significant difference.
Kate Jones, Senior Associate in the Family and divorce team, shares her top tips to help navigate this difficult journey:
1. Choose the right legal representation
Selecting the right lawyer is crucial. Look for someone experienced in family law, empathetic, and willing to explore alternative dispute resolutions, like mediation, before heading to court.
2. Understand your finances
Get a clear picture of your assets, liabilities, income, and expenses. This includes bank accounts, property, pensions, and debts. Knowledge is power, and having accurate financial information before your first meeting with a lawyer will allow them to provide detailed advice and will streamline negotiations.
3. Put children first
If children are involved, their welfare should be the priority. Avoid placing them in the middle of disputes. A lawyer or mediator can help you to agree the arrangements with your spouse, for example how often the children will live with each parent. Once these arrangements have been agreed it is important to present as a united front. Maintain open communication about what changes they can expect and consider a parenting plan to ensure their needs are met.
4. Communicate respectfully
It’s tempting to vent frustrations, but maintaining respectful communication can prevent conflict from escalating. Keep emotions in check when discussing arrangements, especially in writing, as emails and messages may be used in court.
5. Avoid social media pitfalls
Be cautious about what you share online. Posts about your personal life, financial situation, or frustrations with your ex-partner can be used against you in court. A good rule: if in doubt, don’t post it.
6. Think long term
Avoid focusing solely on short-term victories. Prioritise settlements that support your financial stability, future living arrangements, and relationship with your children. Emotional decisions often lead to regrets later.
7. Consider mediation
Court battles can be emotionally and financially draining. Mediation can provide you with the opportunity to reach an agreement amicably, often at a fraction of the cost and time of litigation. Lucinda Holliday, Partner at Blaser Mills Law, is an experienced mediator and can offer child inclusive mediation where necessary.
8. Plan for life post divorce
Begin to visualise your new chapter. Set realistic goals for housing, career, and personal well-being. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counsellor to process your emotions and plan your next steps.
Every divorce is unique, and the process can be complex. By staying informed, focused, and proactive, you can achieve a resolution that supports your long-term well-being. The right guidance and approach will help you navigate this transition with resilience and confidence.
For a confidential chat please get in touch with Kate Jones on 01494 478684 or email kate.jones@blasermills.co.uk.