10 November 2025
Divorce is never easy. It’s a deeply emotional and often painful process but it doesn’t have to be hostile. Each year, Good Divorce Week reminds us that separation can be handled in a way that is fair, constructive, and allows everyone involved to move forward with dignity. A ‘good divorce’ is built on respect, open communication, and a willingness to find common ground.
Start with the right mindset
The way you approach your divorce can significantly influence the outcome. Try to look ahead and concentrate on what will work best now, instead of revisiting what went wrong before. If direct conversations feel too difficult, mediation or letting your solicitor handle the communication can help keep matters on track. Setting a respectful tone early on can prevent minor disagreements from escalating into major disputes later.
Think about the bigger picture
Divorce often brings feelings of grief, confusion, and loss, making it hard to see beyond the immediate pain. Acknowledging those emotions is essential, they are a natural and valid part of the process. At the same time, gently turning your focus toward the future can help you regain balance.
Ask yourself where you hope to be in six months or a year, and what arrangements will best support healing and stability for you and your family. Keeping that broader perspective allows you to make decisions that honour both your emotions and your long-term wellbeing.
Prioritise the children
For parents, the most important goal is to protect children from conflict. They need reassurance, stability, and the continued love of both parents. Try to agree on what you will tell them about the separation and how you will handle joint decisions in the future. Children cope far better when their parents communicate respectfully and present a united front.
Get early professional advice
Seeking legal advice early on can make a real difference. A good family lawyer will not heighten conflict but will instead help you understand your rights, explore your options, and guide you toward a fair and sustainable outcome.
Explore alternatives to court
Not every divorce needs to go through the courts. Mediation can offer a calmer, more cost-effective way to agree on finances or child arrangements. At Blaser Mills, we have two trained mediators who help couples work through difficult issues and reach practical, balanced agreements. Even if some matters ultimately require a court decision, mediation can reduce conflict, time, and expense.
Be open, honest and realistic
A fair settlement depends on transparency. Hiding assets or delaying disclosure only prolongs the process and increases costs. Focus instead on what each of you needs to move forward and begin the next chapter of your lives with fairness and integrity.
Look after yourself
Divorce can be emotionally exhausting. Make space for rest, connection, and self-care, whether through friends, family, or professional support. Taking care of your wellbeing helps you think clearly and make thoughtful decisions for yourself and those who depend on you.
A good divorce is about how you handle it
A ‘good divorce’ doesn’t mean it’s painless, or that you stop caring. It means you’ve chosen to navigate a difficult transition with maturity, empathy, and respect. With the right mindset, advice, and support, it’s possible to separate well and to move forward toward the next stage of life on steadier ground.
For further information or advice please get in touch Maryam Abbasi on 01628 962238 or email maryam.abbasi@blasermills.co.uk.