17 June 2025
The first summer holiday after a separation can feel daunting. For many newly separated parents, the thought of managing childcare, travel, and time off work, all while navigating a new co-parenting dynamic, can be overwhelming.
With some early planning and clear arrangements, the summer holidays can run more smoothly for everyone involved.
Plan ahead
Try to agree on the summer schedule with your co-parent as far in advance as possible. Consider travel dates, video calls with the co-parent, and handover arrangements. The earlier you agree, the more settled you and your children will feel.
Put the children first
The family courts in England and Wales are guided by what’s in the best interests of the child, and that should be your guiding principle too. Children thrive with consistency and time with both parents, so try to approach discussions with fairness and flexibility.
Confirm arrangements in writing
Whether it’s a quick email or a message, putting holiday plans in writing helps prevent misunderstandings. If you have a Child Arrangements Order in place, make sure the plans align with the order, and don’t make changes without written agreement.
Going abroad? Get consent
If your co-parent has parental responsibility, you must have their written permission to take your child abroad unless you have a court order stipulating those arrangements, or the child lives with you under a ‘live with’ order. Include travel dates, destination, and contact details in your request and make sure to carry that permission with you when you travel.
Keep communication child-focused
It’s not always easy but try to keep conversations calm and centred on the children. If direct communication is difficult, parenting apps such as Our Family Wizard can help coordinate plans more neutrally. Never use your children as messengers.
Consider mediation if needed
If you can’t agree on arrangements, mediation can offer a constructive space to find solutions together. It’s usually quicker, less costly, and less stressful than court.
Look after yourself too
This is a period of adjustment. Be kind to yourself and seek support where needed, whether from friends, family, or professionals.
Need support this summer?
Our experienced family team helps separated parents reach clear, child-focused solutions. Whether you need advice on holiday arrangements, court orders, or international travel, we can help to guide you.
To speak to Kate Jones, Senior Associate, call 01494 478684 or email kate.jones@blasermills.co.uk.