Why men should seek support for domestic abuse

Domestic abuse affects individuals across all backgrounds, and while most narratives focus on female victims, men also experience abuse in various forms. Abuse can be emotional, financial, physical, or psychological, and it can involve coercive control – a pattern of behaviour that seeks to isolate, dominate, and manipulate. For men affected by such behaviour, understanding that support is available, and that law protects all victims of domestic abuse is a vital step towards getting help.

Understanding coercive control
Coercive control is a damaging form of abuse involving manipulation to gain power over another person. Signs may include limiting a partner’s social contact and activities, restricting finances, or using guilt to create dependency. Men experiencing this type of abuse may feel confused, isolated, or reluctant to reach out, fearing they won’t be taken seriously. Identifying these patterns is crucial, as coercive control has been legally recognised as a form of abuse in the UK since 2015.

Under the Serious Crime Act, coercive control is prosecutable regardless of the victim’s gender. Knowing this protection exists under UK law can help men understand their rights and acknowledge that their experiences are valid.

Getting help
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, there are several steps you can take to get help:

1. Reaching out for support: In the UK, organizations such as the Mankind Initiative and Respect Men’s Advice Line offer confidential support for men experiencing abuse. These services can provide emotional support, guidance, and access to resources like counselling or safe housing if needed.
2. Document incidents: Keeping a record of incidents, including photos or messages can be valuable if you decide to take legal action.
3. Consider counselling: Speaking with a counsellor offers a safe space to process experiences and begin healing. Many mental health professionals are trained to support abuse survivors and can help rebuild confidence and set boundaries.
4. Seeking legal advice: Law firms experienced in domestic abuse cases can provide guidance on legal protections such as non-molestation orders and occupation orders. A confidential chat with a legal professional can help clarify immediate protection options and next steps if separation or child arrangements are involved. They can also assist in reporting coercive control if required.
5. Getting help from the authorities: If you feel you are in immediate danger, don’t hesitate to contact the police. The police can offer urgent protection and guide you on immediate next steps.

How UK law protects all victims
The UK’s Domestic Abuse Act of 2021 expanded protections for abuse victims, ensuring anyone affected can seek help. This legislation includes coercive control, emotional manipulation, and financial control. Non-molestation orders can legally protect victims, and occupation orders may allow them to remain in their homes safely. Where children are involved, the law prioritises their best interests to keep them safe.

Contact us
If you or someone you know is affected by domestic abuse, know that there is support for you. You have the right to safety, and taking action is a courageous step towards getting out of a distressful situation.

For a confidential chat or further advice, please contact Naim Qureshi on 01494 781356 or email naim.qureshi@blasermills.co.uk.